Surrogate Moms

May 13, 2018

So, as I was walking around our school yesterday, I saw teachers running around helping students cut, paste and decorate gifts. One teacher was frantically taking new pictures of her kids because the original ones got messed up and wouldn’t work with the art project she had in mind. Yes, there were visual reminders of Mother’s Day everywhere I looked.
 
“Do you have any kids?” I asked a colleague. “Absolutely. I have a classroom full of ‘em,” was the response. I laughed and walked away, but that thought stuck with me. Let’s face it – some of the best mothers we have had in our lives weren’t our mothers, in the biological sense, at all. A surrogate mother is a person who takes on all or part of the role of a mother. Yep, that sounds like a teacher to me.
 
And as long as we are on this topic – I believe some of the best teachers we have had in our lives didn’t have teaching degrees. The point? There are a whole host of individuals who do not get the credit they deserve. Mother’s nurture, support, teach, encourage and love. I’m guessing you know many individuals who might not have the traditional “mother” label, but fit in this category. I do. And today I plan to reach out, tell them how I feel they are making a difference in the lives of their “kids”, and wish them a very happy Mother’s Day. God bless all our mothers.

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