Isolate and Focus

Mar 17, 2019

When the sun sets this evening another spring break comes to a close for me.  It’s been a great week, but I am ready to resume my normal work routine – and fortunately, stepping away for a while positively adjusted my attitude and outlook.

As mentioned in my last post, I spent the week gardening.  Little did I realize how much time it would take to clean out my Lorapetulums (Fringe Flowers).  It had gotten to the point I didn’t even recognize the bushes since they had been overtaken by weeds and prehistoric vines.   (I imagine the latter will survive with the roaches should we ever experience some apocalyptic event.)  Luckily, as I stripped away the unwanted greenery I saw more of the beautiful foliage of the true plant, which I feel certain will soon again flourish.  And there is my strategy as I start our last big stretch toward of the end of the school year.

When I think of all the children I’ve worked with who exhibited behavioral challenges, I’ve always been able to see glimmers of the innocence, the good, the hopeful, the scared, and the inherent gifts hiding amongst the difficulties. It hasn’t always been easy, but the positive attributes were always there. And I’ve seen it as my job to unearth the good core of the child, while stripping away the negative behaviors that mask it. Again, not easy. Wanna know one of the best ways to accomplish this? Get the child alone and focus on the positive. This simple strategy keeps me sane and goes a long way in building healthy relationships. I know every child has an inherently good core – I just need to make sure that is what I’m focusing on when I jump back in and challenges arise.

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