Ground Yourself

May 15, 2016

Today in church we celebrated Pentecost, a time when Christians believe the Holy Spirit was sent to provide comfort, guidance and a grounding assurance. It was a day marked by sacrifices. Many people were speaking in different languages, so it was noisy, discordant, confusing and tumultuous. Does this sound familiar? All I could think about was how similar this is to our own end-of-school rituals.

In May, there is undoubtedly some level of chaos in schools. People are frantically trying to complete items on their never-ending “to-do” lists, while adamantly expressing individual opinions through words or actions. Tension levels are high; tolerance levels are low. Unfortunately, sacrifices are made. I hope you are able to ground yourself during these last few weeks of school, lest your sanity become one of those unfortunate sacrifices.

I try to remember all will change in a few short weeks. I’ll be able to step away from the cacophony of craziness and have a healthy break with my family. Unfortunately, some of my students and colleagues can’t do the same. For many reasons, their lives outside of school are filled with negativity and turmoil, which means they won’t be able to get away from it. When I think about this, I gain some much-needed perspective and find myself feeling more fortunate and less frustrated. I hope you, too, are able to drown out all the negative voices and find something positive on which to focus as we close out this school year.

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