Challenges and Loss

Apr 23, 2023

You don’t know what you’ve got ‘til it’s gone.  I believe that’s the phrase.  Actually, we might be aware of what we have, but that doesn’t make the loss any easier.  Phrased differently, absence helps us appreciate presence.  A trivial example of this is me realizing how thankful I am for the warm weather of spring in Central Texas after having just returned from work in Nebraska where it was snowing.

On a more serious note, I’ve talked with many people dealing with extreme loss over the past few weeks.  It’s felt like a tidal wave of collective grief.  I’ve tried to respond as best as able, but have found myself overtaken by sadness for family and friends.  It’s paralyzing to realize that sometimes there are no answers.  The best we can do is just be there for each other, allowing the passage of time to help us work through the pain.

I’m also reminded that when it comes to dealing with extreme behaviors, the same is true.  It’s not always about finding the right strategy or recommendation; it’s about being a present and stable force for others who are dealing with their own challenges.  There is power in connection and community.

This week I want to identify, and be more aware of, my many blessings which I most often take for granted.  I also hope to be more present for the people in my life who are struggling with loss.  Whether we are dealing with the loss of a relationship, livelihood, life, or control, we could all use people walking alongside us helping us feel as though we are not going through things alone.

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