Did the Easter bunny hop by your house this morning? All the Easter talk today made me think about two of my boys who had difficulty with “hopping” issues. Our fourth son, Max, had attention concerns when he was younger. He’d regularly “hop” from one thought to a completely different one without skipping a beat. Our second born, Micah, had difficulty remaining still. He was hyperactive and...

So, I was thinking about past pets yesterday, specifically, Juan Pablo.  Chameleons are interesting creatures.  They are able to blend in to their environment entirely, can completely change their colors in less than 20 seconds, and when feeling threatened, they puff up like blowfish with survival behaviors on full display.  Sound like any kids you know? Our brains are wired for survival, and...

Some individuals might remember this tagline from a 1984 TV commercial. It refers to the strength of garbage bags. Do they hold in the trash or break open leaving a big ugly mess? What a great question – and great behavioral lesson we could apply to our thoughts and words.   As I get older I realize how important it is to pause and think before speaking. Inhibiting our words can be hard,...

Spring fever has arrived – that time of year when students are uninhibited, excited, stir-crazy and in need of change. Behavior challenges pop up more frequently and we seem to have a more difficult time holding things together.  This got me to thinking about one of my former students.  I remember him distinctly – dead set on convincing me he was “bad” as evidenced by his words...

Actions may speak louder than words, but we best not underestimate as a nation how the phrases we use shape the language of children we are collectively raising.  I guess it is a hazard of my profession, but I regularly see and hear the world through the eyes and ears of youth and wonder how exposure shaped their development.  With regard to verbal behaviors, it isn’t always foul language...

I did a great deal of yard work yesterday and was reminded of an important behavior strategy. It’s one I don’t talk about nearly enough, given its effectiveness. Of course, with most people’s busy schedule it’s also hard to come by. The strategy to which I am referring is physical activity.   When we engage in physical activity oxygen is sent to the brain, blood flow increases, and “feel...

I believe I have weather whiplash. For the majority of the week our city was shut down due to about six inches of snow, off-and-on electricity, busted water pipes, and a 9 degree low. Fast forward to today and the high is 72. Welcome to San Antonio, Texas. Though we are used to swings in the temperature, this is extreme even for us. The interesting observation I’m noting is that people don’t...

Given the theme of the day I thought it would be good to remind parents (and teachers) that your kids love you – even when their words and behaviors don’t show it.  “My child slams doors, calls me evil and yells – but then at other times approaches me from behind, gives me an unprompted hug and tells me he loves me.  It’s like I have a crazy temperamental cat.  That’s not normal....

Welcome to February. With the novelty of 2021 having already worn off and still over a month to go before Spring Break, homes and schools can feel like emotional pressure cookers. Unfortunately, the combination of high stress and low tolerance levels becomes a breeding ground for conflict. Keep in mind that when overly stressed we shift into survival mode and react to situations more than...

Alone time – we all need some degree of it. Even me, a card-carrying extrovert, gets a bit overwhelmed if I’m always interacting with others. When I have time to just exist, without input or involvement from others, I usually slow down, look inward and invariably self-reflect. I am also put in a position to be more independent in my choice making – which means I have no one to blame but...