My momma taught me to treat others the way I want to be treated.  I try to practice this, but usually do so at the wrong times.  When things are going well for me, it’s easy – but when I’m upset, my stress behaviors come out.  I react to situations rather than respond to them, which is usually not very pretty. I don’t think I’m alone on this one.  I believe that, for the most part,...

It’s summer, which means it’s time to engage in my annual “clean, sort and pitch” ritual.  It’s amazing how much stuff can pile up over time.  The fear of becoming a hoarder regularly motivates me to purge.  Of course, it’s hard for me to get rid of stuff without some reflection. I realized it’s been over 18 years since I worked at our regional Education Service Center.  While there, I had the...

Parents, I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again:  You are going to get frustrated with your kids, but when that happens, find an activity you enjoy and step away.  I find this simple strategy allows us to stay out of power struggles, and more importantly, adjust our perspectives.  Personally, I like yard work. I spent the morning gardening.  Specifically, I had to clean up one bed,...

As I sat down to write my blog for the week, I knew I wanted to focus on the emotional well-being of kids – but as much as I tried to write, the memory of my post from last year at this time kept pulling my attention away. Happily, the content fits perfectly: On Thursday I was featured at the Soar to Success Summit, an online professional development conference for early childhood...

One of the best ways to avoid power struggles is to let others have the last word.  Though difficult to do, it is an effective way to de-escalate a situation – especially when dealing with your own children.  I have always struggled practicing this strategy, as I have felt as though I was letting my son “win” by not responding immediately when confronted.  However, as my wife has...

This week’s revelation – When we own the solutions, we own the problems.  Parents, too often we jump in and “help” our children.  We bring up issues, prompt discussions, weigh in on options, and offer continual reminders – and in doing so we inadvertently take on the weight of our children’s problems until they are resolved.  If we want our children to become more independent, we must...

Dads, today I celebrate you as teachers. In fact, I believe it is one of your most important roles. Fathers are always teaching, mostly by example, and most of the time without even knowing they are doing so. In this regard, I have seen some masterful work. I have witnessed dads teach empathy, self-control, humility, determination, and gentleness – all through modeled behaviors....

Quite often the inspiration for my blog hits on Sunday mornings when I sit down to write. However this week the seed was planted early and continued to take root and grow. I was reminded how much our behaviors are influenced by our surroundings and habitual attitudes. My wife and I spent a great three days at Niagara Falls this week. The landscape was amazing, the history was inspiring, and...

“The only person who likes change is a wet baby.” This quote from Mark Twain seems appropriate given the changes occurring at home as another school year ends. Parents, we’re lucky. Our kids have had nine months of consistency thanks to the hard work of many teachers. We just need to follow their leads and not blow it. Although students are taking a break from the typical school schedule...

Teachers, you are probably running on fumes. It has been a very challenging year and one that has taken a toll on your physical, emotional and mental health. Of course, you might not consciously be aware of it because your brain and body are still in “go” mode – and when you are moving full steam ahead, you don’t always see what’s happening underneath your hood. For the past six...