Behavioral Evolution

Feb 23, 2020

Behavior change takes time – and sometimes the process moves along so slowly that we can’t even see it when it is occurring right before our eyes. Add to this the fact that the changes are often more evident in our internal mindsets than our outward behaviors and it is understandable why teachers often get frustrated with the seemingly lack of progress some students make.

This past week I had an opportunity to reconnect with two great friends over dinner – Jo Mascorro and Jenny Severson. I’ve known both these ladies for years. They are amazing colleagues, crazy gifted presenters, and overall just good people. As we sat and talked, we reminisced, recounting past adventures. “So much has changed,” we each thought. Our individual journeys – with all the joys, surprises and obstacles – have changed us. And dare I say, for the better? I think so.

Life has a way of moving us all forward on our path, and I am certain that given the right supports, we all evolve behaviorally in a positive way. Teachers, remember that you are part of a large continually evolving support system for your kiddos, and although you might not see the behavior change that’s taking place in front of you, have faith that it is happening. Rest assured, you are making a difference.

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