Adjusting Our Sails

Jan 21, 2018

It was an interesting two days of travel, to say the least. To my recollection, we have seen frozen precipitation drop from the sky a handful of times since we’ve lived in San Antonio over the past 25 years. This, of course, shuts down our city, which was what happened on Tuesday, when I was scheduled to fly to Virginia for a three-day presentation. School was closed, but I braved the weather and got to the airport. Ours was the first flight out, as all prior ones had been cancelled. This meant my plane got the one de-icing truck at our airport. Woo Hoo! I was so relieved to finally make it to Virginia, not wanting to have to cancel – which was why I was sadden to get a call eight hours later, and learn Virginia Public Schools were cancelled due to forecasted snow. Thus, begun my 15-hour adventurous return trip. The Norfolk airport had about the same preparedness for snow as San Antonio, so, after being shuffled through three different airlines, encountering numerous cancellations and delays, I made it home and crawled into bed for a long winter’s night.

I don’t recount the trip for any sympathy. Although I was sad we had to reschedule, most travelers were in good spirits, I got in some good writing, made it home safely and all was well. As I told many a passenger, “Cancer. Cancer is bad. This is merely an inconvenience.” In my observation, the few people who seemed quite disgruntled, had issues with the weather, but took it out on the airline employees. I kept thinking, “We can’t control the weather. The best we can do is adjust our sails.”

Welcome to Behavior 101 – Adjusting Our Sails – the sails of our perspective, our choices, our behavior, our judgment, our attitude. Crazy behavior (of family, co-workers, parents, students) happens and we can’t control it. The more we try, the more frustrated we become. Take it from this tired traveler: practice adjusting your sails and stop obsessing over your final destination. The joy is often in the journey itself.

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