Behavior mainly occurs in a relationship. That’s the first of my nine Positive Behavior Principles. You want to change someone’s behavior? Strengthen the relationship. When we connect with others we take into consideration their feelings when we make choices. Today, as I watch the Superbowl, I do so knowing that one of my choices has been influenced by my connection with others.
Though at times I feel as though I live on a plane, jumping from one presentation to the next, I hadn’t really done a lot of work in California. My work just took me elsewhere – until a few weeks ago when I presented at the California Kindergarten Conference. I enjoyed working with all the teachers and made some great connections – but it wasn’t until this morning that I discovered how much.
I woke up early, excited for the big game today. I love Superbowl Sunday – and although I am still in mourning that I can’t root for the Saints today, I know I will be pulling for the 49ers to win. Why? Because I care. My relationship with all those California teachers influenced my behavior, and thus the choice I make.
As we all work to help our kiddos make good choices, one of the most powerful tools we have is our ability to build positive relationships with them. Relationships influence behaviors. Period. Go 49ers.