Feelings are normal and what you do with those feelings can say a lot about both who you are as a person, as well as what you value. When stressed, people often say and do things they shouldnt. This should be expected in times of crisis, when reactions are more prevalent than responses. Our goal, however, should be to develop coping mechanisms which allow us to inhibit offensive reactions and make conscious choices to respond in a healthy manner when frustrated.
I am reminded of this issue every time I step into an airport. Its like a little test lab for the stress response. I have seen individuals handle flight delays and other transportation problems with grace, and conversely, I have seen a whole lotta ugly. Last week, I was pleasantly surprised by the response of a few passengers on my short trip to Dallas.
The 40-minute flight detoured to Austin and turned into a 4-hour mini-adventure. We were all inconvenienced, but the prize went to two ladies who sat under an air vent that dripped, and then poured water (from condensation) on their heads. There were no other seats, so there they sat. At first, they stuffed napkins into the vents, but once that strategy failed, the stewardess resorted to giving the passengers trash bags to wear on their heads.
These ladies had every reason to complain and be unpleasant but, they didnt. In fact, their understanding nature really had a positive impact on everyone around them. Therein lies the lesson. Just as one drop of rain can raise the level of the ocean, one response or interaction can have a ripple effect on the emotional climate of an entire group or area. I sure hope my response to stressful situations send more positive ripples than negative ones. Time will continue to tell.