The "Get It All In" Obsession

Presented a workshop on power struggles yesterday. I believe power struggles are fueled by frustration, stemming from a feeling we have lost control. Of course, this loss of control is often exacerbated by our obsessive perceived need to “get it…

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No Big Deal

It has been quite a week. As I type, my wife and I are on a plane headed home after spending a great couple of days in Cape May, New Jersey. This trip afforded us the opportunity to attend the…

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What's Your Goal?

If you have ever tried to change your behavior, you know it is not easy. This is especially true if you have several behaviors on which to work. Our school is now at the six-week mark, which is a good…

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Rescue Me

In church this morning we heard about the relief efforts afforded to the victims of Hurricane Harvey. I’m thinking you might be able to relate if you are a teacher or parent. At some point, we have all been in…

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That Student

I often hear from parents who want to talk with me about “a student” in their child’s class. You know the student; he has a colorful vocabulary, is an independent and divergent thinker, and at times can be very physical…

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Look Inward

Do you present on mindfulness? SEL? resiliency? self-regulation? grit? empathy? These are common questions I have been asked over the years. And my answer is usually the same, “Yes. No. Well, it depends.” Although I might not tackle the topic…

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Hold That Thought…

Today I am thankful for hesitation. When we hesitate, we afford ourselves time to think, reflect, and respond to situations rather than react. This week, hesitation helped me from getting into a power struggle, and ultimately damaging a relationship. After…

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Heads, Hearts, Hands

Harvey made quite a splash in our area this weekend. And his impact will be felt for some time to come. Did I mention I’m a hurricane geek? Glued to the Weather Channel? Yes, I want to be Jim Cantore…

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Behavioral Exchanges

Ever find yourself surrounded by people who are tired, hungry and a little grumpy? This seemed to be the emotional climate in the airport on my last trip. I was in a sea of individuals all shuffling through the line…

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The Waiting Game

“Dad, can we stop by Old Navy? I need some nice clothes.” This might seem like a normal request to some, but not for my second born son, who, according to our neighbors, regularly sat on our roof last year…

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